TED 演讲观后感
记录一些 TED 演讲视频
1. 如何成为一个更好的交谈者 11′47″
There is no reason to learn how to show you're paying attention, if you are in fact paying attention.
根本没必要去学习如何表现你很专心，如果你确实很专心。
Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don't
每一个你将要见到的人都有你不知道的东西。
If you put in a complicated question, you're going to get a simple answer out.
如果你询问一个复杂的问题将会得到一个简单的回答。
Don't equate your experience with theirs.
不要把自己的经历和他人比较。
Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
交谈不是用来推销自己的。
Try not to repeat yourself. It's condescending, and it's really boring, and we tend to do it a lot.
尽量别重复自己的话。这很拙拙逼人，也很无聊，但我们很容易这样做。
People don't care about the years, the names, the dates, all those details that your're struggling to come up with in your mind.
没人在乎那些年份，名字，日期等等这些你努力试图在闹钟回想的种种细节。
Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand.We listen with the intend to replay.
我们大多数人都不是为了理解而倾听，我们为了回应而倾听。
Everyone has some hidden, amazing thing about them.
每个人都有不为人知的精彩。
很容易被别人的发言催生出一些念想，不论是一些点子还是想要反驳，这些念想徘徊在脑子里被惦记着说出来，因此多少会忽略正在进行的谈话、不善于使用开放式的问题、交谈总是偏向于两个极端：要不热情高涨，要不就根本什么都不想说、和陌生人交谈不经意间就在“推销自己”了、过多的使用电子设备缺乏面对面的交谈、在某些方面某些时候会进行不该有的说教
2. 你该认清你的恐惧而不是目标 13′25″
Stoicism
斯多葛学派
"We suffer more often in imagination that in reality."
折磨我们的往往是相像，而不是真实。
fear-setting
恐惧设置
1.
列出因为恐惧和焦虑而被拖延的东西
预想到可能发生的糟糕情况
做些什么能预防这些情况发生，或者至少降低发生的可能性
如果发生了，能做什么降低损失，补救
What if I...?
-DEFINE- -PREVENT- -REPAIR-
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2.
回答这个问题
What might be the benefits of an attempt or partial success?
一次尝试或部分成功会带来哪些好处？
3.
不要忽视什么都不改变的代价
The Cost of Inaction
(EMOTIONALLY,PHYSICALLY,FINANCIALLY,ETC.)
-6MOUNTS- -1YEAR- -3YEARS-Easy choices, hard life.Hard choices, easy life. - Jerzy Gregorek
简单选择，痛苦生活。痛苦选择，简单生活。
达拉然许愿池安东尼达斯的硬币上写着
请赐予我力量，去接受我所不能改变的；请赐予我勇气，去改变我所能改变的；并赐予我智慧去分辨两者的不同，这句话改写自：
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference. - Serenity Prayer
3. 怎样才能“不畏将来” 12′39″
well, it was like the man sitting on the deck of the Titanic with a glass of whiskey in his hand and he's saying i know i asked for ice
好吧，这就好像坐在泰坦尼克号甲板上的那个男人，手中拿着一杯威士忌酒，说着：“我知道我说过酒要加冰···
It's the people not like us that make us grow.
只有不像我们的人才能让我们成长。
If we surround ourselves with people with the same view as us, we get more extreme.
如果我们周围都是和我们持有一样观点的人，我们会变得更极端。
We need to renew those face-to-face encounters with the people not like us.I think we need to do that in order to realize that we can disagree strongly, and yet still stay friends.
我们应该重新尝试接触与自己不同的人。我们需要这样做，以此来意识到，我们可以意见分歧，但仍然能成为朋友。
that we discover taht the people not like us are just people, like us.
我们能够发现，不像我们的人，像我们一样，是人。
A nation is strong when it cares for the weak, that it becomes rich when it cares for the poor, it becomes invulnerable when it cares about the vulnerable.
一个强大的国家它会关心弱者，它在关心穷苦的时候才会富有，它在关心弱势的时候才会变得坚强。
各种被精心设计的算法帮我找到相似的人，相似的内容。例如网易云音乐的日推，也许很好用，但不久也陷在一种跳不出某个风格的困扰，另外经常以既得利益者的视角看待政策，是我错了
4. 爱情应有的样子 15′20″
Falling in love
Falling is not jumping Falling is accidental
坠落不是跳跃,坠落是意外
血清素
Neurochemically speaking, romantic love and mental illness are not that easily distinguished.
从神经化学的角度来说，爱情和心理疾病并不是那么容易区分开。
不在过去不在现在难道在将来？
5. 群体性孤独 19′44″
Texting, email, posting, all of these things let us present the self as we want to be.
发信息，写邮件，贴照片发状态，所有这些都能让我们向别人呈现出我们想要呈现的样子。
频繁的联系产生的错觉
We will never have to be alone.
我们永远都不用独自一人
I share therefore I am
我分享，故我在
类似朋友圈微博，过度分散精力，有个小红点就想刷出来看看，实在没什么意义，自己去发也是，全部关闭顶多少了一些不太关键的社交机会